I don't understand why people I wouldn't think of inviting to *my* wedding (if I were going to have one) would invite me to theirs. The only reason (being cynical me) I can think of is that they want to make up numbers. Got the email below on Monday.
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Hi Xxxx,
It’s been some time since we met. [er, yah! At least seven years! And this friend suddenly pops up] What better way to catch up than at a wedding dinner :) [eerrr, NO!!!!! Please, like you think you will even have the time to say hi, much less have a decent conversation during a dinner with 400 - 500 guests.]
X & I are getting married on XX Month 2006, Sunday @_______. We’ll love to have you (and your partner???) there …. please save the date! [Who's X? Like I'm supposed to know who she is when I haven't even spoken to you in seven years. I have no partner and no, I'm NOT saving the date.]
Formal invitation will follow.
Cheers,
XY
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I mean seriously, I think it's meaningless to go when I'm not close to this person at all. And this is my rule of thumb as far as agreeing to attend weddings goes--I'll only go if I've spoken or communicated with the person in the past year. That means I'm close enough to the person to keep in touch. Otherwise, I consider it a waste of time and money.
Posted by DSD at March 24, 2006 12:43 PMkeke...can understand how u feel..
Posted by: tausarpiah at March 24, 2006 4:22 PM*nods* *nods*
it's to make up the number.
definitely.
Posted by: mauvecloud at March 24, 2006 6:33 PMno way would I go if I have not kept in touch for the past 7 yrs! Incredulous that she would ask you, evidently it is to make up the numbers.
Posted by: lynn at March 24, 2006 7:39 PMIt's weird how the opposite is the case in most Western weddings. People oranize receptions with outrageous per head costs and then agonize (and argue!) over who to leave out, trying to limit the total of guests between 50 and 100. I've felt left out a couple of times when I haven't been invited to old school friends' weddings (even if I wasn't in regular contact!).
Posted by: joe at March 24, 2006 9:26 PMNah.. i wouldn't consider going too.. 7 yrs is way too long not to keep in touch.
Posted by: Mama BoK at March 24, 2006 10:57 PMi share your sentiments girl...wat for go? still need to give ang pow you know! i'm not parting so much money for the sake of someone whose face i can hardly remember.
Posted by: slumbering girl at March 27, 2006 12:18 AMAgree totally. 7 years is far too long. That's crazy!
Posted by: milli at March 27, 2006 7:59 AM