What's a woman's best accessory? A Tiffany diamond ring? A limited edition Hermes bag? A pair of Manolo Blahniks or Jimmy Choos? A vintage Valentino gown? A Vera Wang wedding gown? Or a handsome man on the arm?
None of the above, my friend, according to an article I read in an issue of Her World.
Let me digress a little here. I don't buy women's magazines and the only time I read them is when I'm at the hairdresser's. Every time I'm there I learn something new. In fact, it was a couple of months back that I finally learned that the 'swinging' isn't quite the innocent term that was previously associated with playgrounds or the dance fad of the 1930s. And I only recently learnt of the term 'Lipstick Lesbian' while flipping through a friend's gay magazine. I know, I'm embarrassingly low on the hip quotient. I'm going to assume that everyone is higher on the hip quotient so I shan't bother defining the two terms.
Anyway back to the main topic. The article I read said that the best accessory for a woman is a scruffy and unkempt-looking man 'cos his scruffiness will only serve to play up her beauty and elegance. Errm, while the theory is logical, I really don't like to go out with scruffy-looking guys.
The article cited examples of local celeb couples, e.g. Jamie Yeo and Glenn Ong. But I say, pls lah, Glenn Ong is able to carry it off 'cos he's got attitude and that's the kind of public persona he projects. Not every guy can carry such a look off ok?
I think if a guy doesn't make the effort to spruce up, look clean-shaven and put on some appropriate clothes befitting the occasion, it really shows a lack of bearing. Some women interviewed in the article disagree with me though. They say they don't mind unkempt guys as if a guy is too concerned about his appearance, it is very annoying and they would even get suspicious of his sexual bias!
While I agree that men who are too vain are just a major turn-off, I still don't quite agree on the theory that an unkempt-looking man is a woman's best accessory. I like men clean-shaven and nicely dressed thank you very much.
Posted by DSD at March 14, 2005 8:41 AMoh boy... my "hip-quotient" is definitely in the need of some pumping... please define the terms DSD!
hahah scruffiness is ace... although i think clean-shaven men are lovely too... it all depends on the whole package DSD... i guess scruffiness with a down-to-earth attitude is great.
i should get f to read this... he will beam.
Posted by: tiggie at March 14, 2005 9:30 AMheh, I know what "swinging" means (and don't ask me how I know). Let's just say it has to do with "changing partners." Not sure about now, but in the 70s, if you knew the right people, you could invited to swing parties. I'll leave the rest to your imagination.
Not sure about "lipstick lesbian" though. Guess I'm not too high in the hip quotient either.
Posted by: monoceros at March 14, 2005 11:34 AMI'll settle for clean-shaven. The boyfriend is Mr Casual, and not usually too scruffy.
Posted by: andrea at March 14, 2005 11:37 AMtiggie: monocerous is right. Let's just say if you said "I like to swing." at a bar or pub, you're most likely to get lots of offers to do the horizontal tango...and that wouldn't happen to be on the dance floor!
And yes, i agree it has to do with the whole package. But like andrea, i'd settle for clean-shaven. Casual is fine with me. Just not unkempt. And btw, i don't think f is scruffy!
As for Lipstick Lesbian, it just refers to those lesbians who dress and act just like any other straight woman. They're not the usual butch lesbians we are accustomed to seeing.
Posted by: dsd at March 14, 2005 1:07 PMNow where will the reliable sayings "What matters most is what is on the inside than what's on the outside" stand with the context of today's women? Tsk Tsk
Posted by: Stranger at March 14, 2005 1:58 PMDSD... no f isn't too scruffy but he likes to be (i think!)... hahha
Posted by: tiggie at March 14, 2005 8:50 PMscruffy men tend to bring about the connotation that they are dirty and lazy. as in they are scruffy coz they do not bother to bathe, shave and change their underwear! I think any guy has to pass the cleanliness test at least. Ok but that's just me the cleanliness freak but then again, who wants to be with someone who smells!
And BTW, tiggie, F does not qualify as scruffy lah!
Posted by: Fatgirl at March 14, 2005 11:47 PM*raises hand* what is lipstick lesbian? Everytime i read ur blog, i learn something new!
Posted by: roblee7 at March 15, 2005 12:29 AMStranger: That's probably become an urban myth. heh.
tiggie: If f reads this, he'd be glad to know that fatgirl and I don't think he's scruffy! haha!
fatgirl: i concur!
roblee7: See my first comment. But good to know i'm "educating" people. heehee.
Posted by: dsd at March 15, 2005 9:29 AM